feat: ReconcileUtils for strongly consistent updates (operator-framework#3106)

- Adds utility that provides methods to update resources using comparable resource versions
- Integrates this utility to the core of the framework (thus simplifying `ReconciliationDispatcher`)
  -  note that this introduces a change in the behavior for the `UpdateControl.patchStatus` (and others), since it won't trigger the reconiliation for the event in that update.
-  Renames former `ReconcilerUtils` to `ReconcilerUtilsInternal`, this is breaking but that utils was never advertised for non-internal usage
- Includes also fixes for ControllerEventSource event filtering
- Improves TemporaryResourceCache event filtering algorithm

Signed-off-by: Attila Mészáros <a_meszaros@apple.com>
Signed-off-by: Steve Hawkins <shawkins@redhat.com>
Co-authored-by: Steve Hawkins <shawkins@redhat.com>

Author: csviri